Modern monogamy?

I like this perspective. It's the modern world, people, let's accept a little flexibility, shall we?

I have come to the conclusion that just because monogamy works for some people, doesn't mean it's right for everyone. Relationships need to be defined between people, but this idea that one-size-fits-all is perfectly ridiculous.

Two friends of mine have been together for well over 15 years now, and are very happy together. I also know that they have had dalliances with others in that time, without damaging the core of what they have together.

This idea that you have to spend your entire life with one person at the expense of all others is, I think, a little outdated and very constricting. The freedom to indulge your passions and desires can prevent stagnation in a relationship and ultimately stops you feeling tied down.

Now, I also accept that the counter-argument to this is not without merit, and for some people that may be the right solution for them, but at the heart of it has to be an agreement between the people entering a relationship.

More important than fidelity is openness and honesty with your partner(s). As long as you are clear and honest about your intentions (even if your intentions aren't) and you have the boundaries agreed, then so long as you communicate, a flexible, positive and healthy relationship is possible.